For those who have not yet seen the movie, just a quick warning!
SPOILER ALERT!
In certain scenes of the movie, Camille found the courage to let go of Daniel so that they can both focus on their dreams. Was this a wise decision? Will they be able to meet again once they are both better?
Here are some tips and tricks whenever you find yourself in this situation when you do not even know what you will be doing during this “letting go” phase
Negative feelings take a toll on your emotional and physical health anger is even associated with heart disease and will affect your future relationships. Recognizing this behavior as unhealthy is the first step in the process of letting go.
TIP #1: TALK TO SOMEONE YOU TRUST
Holding your feelings inside only keeps you stuck and can eventually turn into anxiety or even develop into depression. Talk to a supportive friend, a family member or a therapist about how you feel and let them be there for you in your time of need.
TIP #2: IDENTIFY SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS
If thoughts like “I could never be alone” or “I’ll never find someone else who loves me” run through your mind, understand that they are limiting beliefs that will prevent you from truly letting go. Replace them with empowering beliefs like, “I am open to what the universe has in store for me” and “I love myself and deserve the best.” This will help you let go without fear.
TIP #3: STAY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA
Learning how to let go of someone you love becomes much more difficult when you are constantly reminded of them. Though social media is a way to stay in touch with friends and family, it’s the opposite of what you need when you are going through a breakup. Staying off social media while you heal not only prevents you from seeing pictures or posts from your ex, but it will also keep you from seeing other seemingly happy couples, which can make you feel worse about your situation.
TIP #4: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
The process of letting go and moving on from a relationship can be stressful and lonely. This is not the time to beat yourself up or ignore your needs. When you practice self care and take this time to fall in love with yourself, you’ll heal more completely and perhaps be healthier than you were before the relationship even started. Indulge in massages or other relaxing activities, engage in hobbies that make you happy and focus on finding fulfillment without being part of a couple.
TIP #5: KEEP BUSY
Staying in bed all day and avoiding friends and loved ones makes letting go and moving on that much more difficult. Start your day with an empowering morning ritual that includes activities like meditation, yoga or journaling, then get up and get involved. Join groups, volunteer for a new project at work or meet a friend for lunch or drinks. Staying busy will help take your mind off the breakup and allow your wounds to start healing.
TIP #6: GIVE YOURSELF TIME
Even if you know how to let go of someone you love and follow all the steps, don’t expect to feel better immediately. Grieving is normal and you need to allow yourself the necessary amount of time to feel your emotions. Treat yourself with compassion and don’t allow anyone to guilt you into “just getting over it.” Though you don’t want to isolate yourself, take some extra time away from social events if you feel you need it and never agree to a date or set-up until you feel you’re really ready – those who don’t give themselves enough time often end up in rebound relationships that are harmful or that prolong the healing process even more.
